This week, the amaryllis opened fully with its second bloom. The last flower wasn’t completely open before the first one was fading.
They get white streaks in the petals as they fade.
The orchid made more progress.
Later, it is almost fully open. I do love these flowers with their pristine white petals and interesting center markings.
The dogwoods are in full flower, lovely white blooms against verdant green.
The mountain laurel has opened up, and is lovely.
A closer view shows the unusual configuration of the flower. The red and white flower has tinges of pink as it goes from the bud to fully opened flower.
On the veranda, the geranium is putting out flowers in every direction. It is really leggy, and I think it needs to be cut back a bit.
The flowers are mostly an intense pink color.
It is green everywhere now, as all the trees are leafed out in varying shades. This was evident on Wednesday when one of the car clubs took a drive around the back roads to Lake Toxaway for lunch.
Parking at the restaurant, I got two of the cars with the lake in the background. We’ve been here before, in the fall when all the trees were dressed in their amazing fall colors.
The restaurant is called Grand Olde Station, and has been there quite a while. It is a great place to eat, with wonderful food and fresh ideas. This was the side wedge salad I got with my meal. It is a wedge of romaine instead of iceberg. It was topped with bleu cheese dressing and crumbles, bacon bits, cherry tomatoes and a balsamic drizzle. Yum!
My grilled chicken sandwich was huge, nicely seasoned with bacon, lettuce and a big slice of a beefsteak tomato. I liked the mix of seeds on the bun too. Delicious.
So here we are, once again, having a Sunday chat about the flowers in the garden, plans for the week, what I’ve been up to and what I am working on. Are you bored yet? I have found myself getting bored with some blogs talking about the same project for long periods of posts, endless posts about their business, the same things on the same days every week, or just daily life, and I have reduced the number I read and comment on. I wonder if you all are getting bored too. Comments are way down, with only my most loyal commenters still engaging. The facebook group is dead quiet, in spite of Mary and Pat’s efforts to get readers to participate. I’m sure it is my fault, as I am not giving you much in terms of free patterns or quilt alongs right now.
I haven’t done a mystery quilt in a few years, as I just haven’t been inspired. Time with my EQ8 design software isn’t yielding anything I can get excited about. I have tried to start an EQ8 group here to meet monthly, but that looks like it isn’t going to succeed as none of the members want to do their part. It has become an unpaid teaching position for me and the other leader, rather than the sharing and inspiration group that we envisioned, and she is ready to quit. I’m going to keep it going for another month, but I am on the verge of giving up on it, too, unless the other members start participating. I need to get something out of this group, too.
I have no comments from local friends who say that they are reading this blog. It feels like they are keeping up with what I am doing, but I have little engagement with what is going on with them. It has become a one-way street where I talk to them on my blog, but I get little back. Guild meetings are fun, but there is little between. One lady actually said to me this week, “oh, you don’t need to tell me about that, I’ll read it on your blog”, as she walked away. Add to that another friend (or so I thought, but is apparently just an acquaintance) who was getting a group together for lunch, loudly talking about this as she sat behind me. But, she didn’t invite me, and I really do feel left out. I felt the same at the last overnight retreat, just left out of conversations and engagement, so much so I almost went home a day early. I’m useful as a resource for help with computers, or committees, or quilting a charity project for free, but apparently nothing more. There are only a couple of notable exceptions – but they don’t read my blog anyway so they won’t miss it, and one very dear friend who will text me or call frequently and will keep up with me regardless of my blog. I invite people to lunch or dinner regularly, yet when I stop, only two will ask me to join them for a meal. My circle of acquaintances is larger than I thought, and my circle of actual friends is smaller than I hoped.
Forgive me for venting all this, but it is very draining, and quite frankly, somewhat depressing. Add to that some personal issues and multiple charity projects coming to an end, and I think it may be time to take a break. I’ve been posting multiple times a week for over eleven years. Maybe I have just run out of things to say for the time being.
Anyway, I’m going to reduce the pressure on myself with the number of posts for a while. I need to take some time off, and maybe recharge my design mojo, find some sewing joy again, and get some projects underway that I can be excited to do and to share. I’m not sure how long this will be. I will post the Koi Pond project when it is farther along.
To my newer readers, please forgive me for taking this break right as you come along. I have over 2000 posts with lots of free patterns and ideas, just use the search box on the right sidebar (scroll down past comments on a phone), or click on one of the categories to see lots of posts on so many subjects. I hope using those tools and reading some of the past posts will be inspiring and give you lots of free projects until I can start again. You can also use the pull down menus at the top of the blog to see more.
In the meantime, have fun sewing and crafting, cooking and stamping, and enjoying the summer. I’ll be back when I have something new to show you. Ta-ta for now.
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From My Carolina Home 
Good morning Carole!
Thanks for your honest thoughts on how you are feeling. I know where you are coming from. Like you, I belong to a couple of Guilds and groups and am always the one to do longarming for free or take on special projects, invite people for lunch, etc., but it is never reciprocated. I have yet to figure out why that happens and it makes me sad and frustrated. The same with hearing people making lunch plans and not including you, I have had this happen too and this is from people I consider “my friends”. Sigh. I just don’t get it 😔!
I have enjoyed reading your blog and have met you a couple of times at quilt shows. I relate so much to the gardening, cooking, quilting, crafts, books and things that you do, thank you so much for all of the time and effort that you have put into this, I have really appreciated you! I hope you do take the time to take a break from all of this and focus on YOU!
Wishing you well,
Warmly,
Diane
I agree Diane. I don’t always comment because I’m not logged in or can’t comment on the device I’m on. (I replied to Diane’s comment because I couldn’t find where to comment🤪). Carole I love your blogs and read them all the time. I truly understand you needing a break. I would love to invite you to lunch but it would be a long ride ( I live in CT). And until you blog again I will be going thru your blog for inspiration! Enjoy your break. I’ll be waiting for your return whenever you are ready ❣️
What a thoughtful and insightful share, Carole. It sounds like a break is sorely needed, both personally and “blogiprofessionally.” I had a similar discovery about people this past week. Rick has been away at the lake trying to put that place back together; one friend I’d call to “play” with has houseguests this week, another is traveling and the third had a combo of funerals and deadlines. The “go-to” crowd for playing — yet I seem to “know” more and more people and they seem to “know” me!
I’ll say one thing I’ve said to many a blogger — we “own” our blogs — they don’t own us. We set the rules. No need to post twice a week, once a week or daily. Post when/if you feel like it. Visit without having to have people visit you. Or don’t! Just know that if and when you do post, a group of the faithful, me among them, will be there!
I follow your blog and always enjoy your table scapes, quilts, and activities (except for welcoming squirrels 😁). I understand your frustration with giving so much of your time and talent to others and getting little back. Unfortunately that happens a lot. Please don’t let their lack of thoughtfulness affect your enthusiasm for giving. Hope to see you at the quilt show next spring.
Gail in Waynesville
I will miss your regular blog posts, but I totally understand your reasoning. Our quilt group disbanded last year as only 4 or 5 people were regularly showing up (the same 4 or 5). I don’t go to retreats any more, as I simply don’t enjoy them and the cliques don’t make “outsiders” feel welcome. I’m even trying to scale back the gardening because the weather, the critters, and my age are making it a chore, not a pleasure.
So enjoy your break and pop back in when the mood strikes you.
I am so sorry you are going through a rough patch. I give you kudos that you recognized it and are giving yourself a break. Let your creative vibes come back, as they will and enjoy it without the pressure of having to blog about it. We will be here when you are ready to share again. And if you find that the blog is no longer fulfilling, please know of my well wishes for you in your future endeavors. Thank you for letting me be there for this part of your journey.
I haven’t been on fb since they decided fact checking wasn’t needed. Not that I thought your activity needed checking, but the idea that posting trash is acceptable doesn’t work for me. I’m floored at what that person said to you, and another discussing an event with her friends! Where’s all that Southern Hospitality we’re always hearing about? Seems like some fact checking is needed there too. I watched an old soap opera on YouTube and someone commented on how nice everyone was to one another. A few years ago the editor of our local paper was trying a campaign to wipe out how coarse everyone was becoming. Seems he was forecasting the future.
First, I read all your blogs and enjoy hearing what you’re doing. Having said that, life can get in the way, and one needs to step back a bit. I find myself at that point at the moment. So, enjoy your down time, rejuvenate, and continue to enjoy your interesting and varied activities. Carolyn W.
good Sunday morning Carole! I have been reading your blog for at least a year or 2 now and I have never commented. I know exactly how you feel. Real friends are rare and hard to find and keep. The more you give, the more people expect, and the less you get in return. You are an amazing creative, generous, artistic person and you spend loads of time snd energy on your posts. It’s really fine to take the summer off to recharge and make some changes if you wish. I loved reading your thoughts and marveled at your table scapes. Your quilts are so pretty and I loved hearing your thought process as you design them. all my best – enjoy your summer!
angelika Swantek from new Hill NC
I love reading your blog but you must take care of yourself! Blessings.
Hi Carole – I read your blog and love hearing about your mini car club trips and the beautiful pictures of your garden. And the table settings are beautiful. I understand your feelings about these “friends” as I too have had that happen. My sewing mojo disappeared for many months due to a health issue and just all around blahs! Take the time that you need. Recharge, sit back, do nothing while sitting on your porch. Enjoy the summer. We all need it from time to time. We will be here when you get back.
One should always take care of oneself with no need to apologize! Wishing you the spark of joy that will lift you up.
I totally understand where you are coming from Carole. I have those same sentiments at times. Sometimes we do need a break and refresh our minds and creativity. I’m about at that point myself, but will persevere through the year due to obligations. You give so much to your community and burnout is real. I don’t always comment, but I do read and have followed you for many years. I enjoy seeing all your wildlife and tablescapes and projects. Thanks for all you have done, especially with the quilts for the hurricane victims. Sending hugs!
Carole, you be you. I will miss Sunday chats the most, in which you pretty much sum up all your activities of the week prior, whether it’s projects, meals, tablescapes, garden or mini tours, but I support whatever you choose to do. I will stay subscribed and visit you! Have a great summer!
When it isn’t fun anymore, it’s time to take that break and re-energize yourself. You don’t owe anybody anything. I realized that I put a lot of pressure on myself with deadlines and expectations that nobody else had. I just did it to myself and finally stopped. Take up a new activity and make a few new friends. Something non stressful like a class on cake decorating. 😀 This is your life, nobody else’s, so you do you. Enjoy your well deserved break!
Carole, I enjoy your Sunday morning chats and regret that I don’t often comment. I have a very close friend that lives in Asheville so I am familiar with the area and love the pictures from your car club rides. Enjoy your break and I will look forward to your next post. Doris R
I understand where you are and I feel your pain.
I too am only contacted when someone needs something for free.
Also, I haven’t been able to engage lately to 10+ days a month with migraines.
Take your break and come back when you are ready.
Way back in 2002, we hosted a Japanese student. One day she came home from College so upset, there was a group of older Japanese girls there for 2 weeks, and at lunchtime the other NZ girls sat with the new ones and all chatted. She said ” They have friends already”. I found my translation book and also showed her a photo of a friend and myself in 1954, and told her we were still friends, these new girls were just ” acquaintances” …” Ah, So So ” her reply. When I started my blog, I felt I had to do a post every day, and last year or before that I found it was becoming too hard, too time consuming, and now my posts are so infrequent. I can understand how saddened you would be at the comments, and at feeling left out.Look after yourself, in life that is so important, a post now and then we let us all know you are okay, and a Sunday Chat or a car outing with the beautiful scenery is always uplifting for me.
Believe me, I totally understand your feelings and applaud you for recognizing them…..but most of all for taking action. Stepping away from ‘self imposed obligations’ will help to clarify your new path. Close friends, true friends are very hard to find…..I can’t tell you how much I miss my Asheville area pals, specifically the fiber and car buddies. Relocating to a totally different place, with views that are not mine and cliquey groups has been challenging. The ‘giving’ quilt instructor in me continues to be exploited with little in the way of friendship being offered in return. However, with TIME I’m beginning to find my way back to a happier content life, you will too.
Your quilt and car pal Mary
Oh bless your heart Carole. You do need a break and while some of us .me as well. can feel and understand your pain it doesn’t help you .People just aren’t very thoughtful these days and believe me I understand where you are. Given that…it’s our place to not give in and become. Just like them. Take your much needed break and know those of us who understand will be waiting for your return. Go out and continue to enjoy your beautiful yard and the criters you have made part of your life..know how blessed you are.This too shall end.
I find that I have less comments also on my blog and being a daily blogger I wonder at times if I am blogging too much that some have become bored with it. Also because there is so much social media available were people communicate with one sentence I wonder if that is all people want anymore? I too have cut back on how many blogs I read as I was beginning to feel like all I do is sit with the computer and not do much of anything else. My “friends” are on the computer – I no longer try to make real “friends” and I don’t join in anything local as I hate local political views – I feel I am a dot of blue surrounded by red hate. I keep my blog going to maintain the blog friends that I do have and if I gave it up I have a feeling I would no longer receive any email that I do look forward to continuing and having quilting conversations and gardening etc. Take you break but I do hope you will be back.
I love reading your blog and find you an amazing pers
I read all your posts, Carole, and really enjoy them. I don’t always comment–I’m sorry! I do like keeping up with what’s going on in your part of the world, quilting and otherwise. Thank you for all you do and write!
I enjoy your tales of life-I used to live not too far from you in SC and it keeps me up to date with what is going on there. Your help after Hurricane Helene has been so appreciated. But I understand the burn out-which is what you have. Take time to rest, focus on your true friends and family, get back your joy. We will wait patiently for you!
Good idea to take a break, Carole. I enjoy your blogs, but have still been working on putting 4 bedrooms of stuff in a 3-BR house with no basement. The struggle is real, but at some point the intense effort without social outlet really got to me. Stopped NOT doing things I enjoy (Scrabble & volunteering @ Sr. Center, etc.) & left chores to stew. . .Am back to de-cluttering (not too successfully) some, readying for an annual community Garage Sale, which will help! Reading more – I have a list of your recommendations, plus availability of free books @ same Sr. Center. . . Can’t garden too much @ new place, but pots are thriving, & I enjoy your nature photos. .. . BUT I am of the opinion that we need to all listen when our outlets aren’t “performing” as we wish, or as they have been. When our “friends” seem to not care. Maybe they’re having some unknown struggle, but logistics seem to be off more than they are on. At some point a call or note “Sorry. .. things have been rough here… thinking of you” would soothe the bruised feelings. I take a deep breath & move on to some other distraction, with those “friends” waaay on the back burner. When they again surface, even years later, all is forgiven & I joyously welcome them back. I read somewhere that people come onto our lives for a moment/season/lifetime, which can be helpful (especially with some of the new acquaintances I didn’t enjoy much shortly after meeting, so I’m glad that season is over!) to put things in perspective. I’ve given up most sewing for quite a while, starting to feel the urge again (just found my machine!), also regular card-making, attending monthly meetings, tho I’m not very productive, just encouraging & enjoying others’ creations. At some of these endeavors I have felt left out as you are feeling – just not on the same wavelength & wonder should I back off or make one more effort to connect?? Anyway, maybe this is normal – I’ve felt these feelings before & quit (genealogy group, herb group, crafty fingers group, quilt guild). When I see these folks around town, they are all friendly, which is nice, but if I miss them/the activity, I can always return & try again for a more meaningful relationship.
Gosh this is a long post to validate (I hope!) your feelings & send support for whatever you choose to put on hiatus, or just toss! In case I wasn’t clear, I’ve enjoyed reading your blog when it pops up, don’t always comment if I have nothing to say tho!
All the best to you!
Jennie Rauch
I read a lot of blog and rarely comment – I just enjoy seeing all the beautiful pictures (and descriptions of places/foods/decorating/quilts/embroideries, etc.). Thanks for sharing.
You need to take the pressure off and rest. I recommend a cruise, there’s no better place for getting rested – the waiters on NCL even put your napkin on your lap! Take care of yourself💕💕💕
It is so important for us to take time to reflect and recharge. I think you are making a wise decision and will be more at peace with yourself and the world as you go through the process. I have loved your columns over the years and if you decide to continue, I will be here but for now take time for yourself!
Loyal reader,
Donna
I always find your posts most enjoyable. I am not a quilter, but I love reading the things that you do, which are fantastic. I’m sorry you are feeling burned out with t
My finger slipped. Sorry. Many bloggers share your frustration with the lack of feedback. A number of people have told me they read mine regularly, but they never comment. If they knew what it meant to us, I’ll bet they would share a few words. Meanwhile, I hope you enjoy your break and find joy in blogging again.
OH Carole, I’m so sorry to read about your feelings. But what an appropriate time to help lift you up. I was up early today and got the exciting news that a great grandson was born earlier in Tennessee. That lead me to do a search on the meaning of names. I went back and put in Carole…free person, exudes sense of freedom and creativity, joyful song or dance. Now that is you! And I only know you through this blog that I happened upon a few years back. I don’t have as many interests as you but I enjoy reading about everything you love. I especially like my Scrap Dance Quadrille that I need to get quilted. It is done with 30’s fabric and is so eye catching. I also made a small table topper with your Pachanga pattern. Sorry I don’t post on FB as some things are still a puzzle to me on sharing. Take time for yourself and we will all be patient waiting for your return to blogging.
sometimes you do need to take a break until your activities are fun again. I always enjoy reading your blog and looking at the pictures. But enjoy your time doing whatever you want.
I always enjoy reading your blog and am one of those guilty of not leaving a comment. You are an inspiration to me, but I understand that you feel like you need to take a break and reset. I know what you mean about reaching out and it not being reciprocated, but I don’t think it’s a reflection on you, it’s just our society. It’s our nature (mostly) to sit back and let someone else do all the work without a thought of our need to contribute, to just sit back and enjoy the benefits without lifting a finger to support.
Your blog is so diverse and interesting, from your table scapes to your photos of the birds and flowers to all your quilting projects. And the cooking inspiration! I apologize for not letting you know how much your efforts mean to mean to me. So take a break, but please don’t quit!
You deserve a break – you do so much for not just the blog, charity donations, etc. Take a break, and enjoy some very free time. Thank you, Dee
I understand your need to sca
Take a break. I know exactly how you feel. It has happened to me so often. People are so involved with themselves, social media, and their families that friends are no longer that important. And if you don’t have nearby family, you get feeling shunned even more. I find the only time I am useful is when they are stuck on a problem or need a tool—then they think of me, get the problem fixed or tool and they are off again. I get joy out of reading your chats (do not do blogs, instagram, etc.). Thankfully I was brought up basically as an only child (sisters were gone by time I arrived) that I can entertain myself and I just let my creativity run wild. I have not been to a retreat in 20 years, but am going to try again this year. We shall see how it goes. Good luck, get rest, hope you get your mojo back soon.
Social media indeed, has greatly reduced/eliminated conversations among many. So sad that people you thought were friends are fragrantly ignoring you.
Enjoy some time of reflection. We’ll see you when you come back….and if you don’t, you don’t.
You deserve a break! You have given nonstop for years!
What I am observing in the organizations I’m involved with is that less people are pitching in to help. Some wall flower members have the nerve to be critical of volunteers and that galls me!
I am a big believer that leadership – whether that be a club, business, or whatever needs to set expectations on what is acceptable behavior and what is not. As sad as it is to think people should know better, it helps to put guardrails up.
I appreciate you! The efforts you’ve put in to help the homeless and to distribute quilts to those affected by Hurricane Helene is extraordinary and touching. The work is purposeful for those participating and helpful in so many ways to the recipients.
Thank you for being you! Hoping you relax, recharge and enjoy time to do whatever meets your fancy!
Sending healing and revitalizing energy your way!
Jo Anne
Carole,
I may not comment, but always hit “Like” to let you know I’m here. I enjoy reading your variety of posts as life is a variety.
I sometimes wait & read multiple post with a cup of tea when I need some quiet time away from life’s challenges.
There are differences between acquaintances & friends. I always go into a relationship expecting the later but frequently find it’s the former. And yes that can kind of hurts, but I continue approaching each new contact with a positive attitude.
Please know that self care is important. I appreciate you & all the work you have done to share your life & skills with us.
Mary Ellen aka QuiltMouse
I’m so sorry to hear you feel so left out. I’m a loner, so that isn’t usually a problem I have. But, the hubs is a social butterfly and I can tell when he hasn’t had any outside association. So, so what you need to do to find your joy and creative zeal again!
I find that most of the bloggers I follow use their blog as more of a personal diary these days, and that’s okay. If that’s not what you’re wanting to do, then post when the urge hits you. We’ll be here whenever you do!
Dear Carole: I can’t tell you how much I look forward to your newsletter. It’s the first one I read when I open my e-mail. It’s not only fun to read, but also enlightening. I love reading about the birds, the flowers, your photography, the books, the car club trips, your community involvement, your table settings, your recipes, and everything involved with your quilts. I could go on and on…. I get to see a part of the U.S., that I will only be able to visit through your writings. I know how you feel. I think there is something in the air back here too! It’s like being unseen or forgotten. BUT, you aren’t!!! Take time for yourself. Treat yourself to something special!!! Know that people care even though they are unseen or unknown. And, will look forward to your newsletter after your break. Rosemary Seattle
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Hi Carole, I haven’t commented before but want you to know that I enjoy your company online, seeing beautiful photos of the nature around you, hearing about your projects and recipes. Your generous charity work is an inspiration. Thank you! It sounds like you need a break. I encourage you to give yourself permission to pamper yourself a bit. Spend time with the people and activities that bring you joy.
Carol in Iowa
Good morning,
Thank you for being so honest. I enjoy your blog and have been inspired by the so many of the things you’ve shared. Take best care of yourself and know that we will be wishing you well.
Carole, I certainly understand your feelings. You have been giving for so many years and inspiring us with it. I support your effort to take a break. I have been reading along and living a bit in my own bubble. Relationships are a challenge for me with family and friends partly because of politics and partly because I have a full load here at home and don’t have a lot of extra energy to keep engaged.
I haven’t sewn for more than a few hours in almost 5 years. Loss and the need to shift my energy just didn’t leave any room for it. The stirrings are still there though. If I can do some more clean out of items from my sister’s estate, I might reward myself with pulling out some fabric and sewing something simple rather than the complicated quilt that preceded my sewing stop.
I have been enjoying your gardening posts as gardening is something I started I think, to keep my sister and mom who both loved it…in my heart and thoughts. Seeing flowers and vegies grow comforts and and gives me hope.
I have also loved your book reviews. I’m reading a series by Sharon Garlough Brown and have finally relaxed into reading again.
I hope to stay connected with you. Enjoy some time away from any obligation and I hope you find some time with people that encourage you as well. Thankfully we walk dogs twice a day and one neighbor walks with us that cheers us all. Sometimes it only takes a few people in our lives to keep us balanced.
Cheers to you and thank you for so many years of love.
Take the break you need. We all need to “reset” every now and then. It helps gets our priorities right. You will be missed. I do get inspiration from you. I sew many quilt tops for Victoria Quilts. They make quilts for people undergoing cancer treatments. I find your blog helpful for ideas. I am in a bit of a slump myself, as my husband is currently going thru Cancer treatments. I look forawrd to hearing from you again in the future (Thru emails, I do not use facebook).
Maintaining your blog and creative mojo is, no doubt, a challenge. Hope it comes back in due time and will look forward to reading same again.
Hi Carole, I want to thank you for your honesty and openness. I’ve read your blog for years and have always been inspired by the projects you share. Everything has its season, and like you, I also needed a break from blogging last year. It was the photo editing that caused me to pause. I’ve considered posting again this spring, but I haven’t yet. Your honesty and creativity have always been a source of inspiration for me. You are always expected to be the “organizer” or the “leader”. This is the same for me. When I step back, I am on the outside looking in. At my last guild meeting, I wondered, “WHY am I here?”. My list of friends is tiny, but I have many acquaintances and have experienced similar things to what you describe.
I completely understand how you feel. I have been Secretary of a Guild for over ten years. I work hard on the newsletter each month and feel deflated when people don’t read it. We have having an off-site meeting this month and I put a lot of detail on directions/address in the newsletter, only to have a member text me yesterday and ask for the address. Ugh. I also reach out to Guild members for lunch and don’t get invitations in return. I wish you and I lived closer. We could be lunch buddies. I hope your break refreshes your mojo!
Carole, I’m sorry you’re feeling this way, and hope you can see from all the comments you’re getting that you’re a beloved part of our quilting/blogging community! I enjoy all of your posts from quilting to car club trips and everything in between. You know I especially appreciate your posts about the blooms (that mountain laurel is beautiful!) and wildlife around you, and your book recommendations, too. That being said, if you need a break, you do what you need to take of yourself!
I do think there is a type of paradigm shift happening, but I’m not sure to what. I’ve struggled to find blogs I actually want to follow. And then, yep, I get bored. To me its real connection of a spiritual kind we are all starved for. How is that really fulfilled? Sending you blessings for rest and recharge. ❤️
I always enjoy your blog. I love the pictures as they are “from back home” to me, replanted here in the desert. LOL I really enjoyed watching your Koi Pond develop. I don’t comment often, but I always read. If you need a break that is understandable, you are a very busy person. Thank you for all you do.
Carole, I’ll miss your posts but totally get your need to refresh. You have a lot on your plate. I’ve enjoyed reading about your car club trips, seeing your pretty table settings and enjoying your recipes and book reviews. I’ll miss you in my inbox but know at times we need a big change.
Enjoy your recharge! I enjoy your blog and hope to be more interactive now that My hub and I have retired! We also moved which is a huge ordeal but we are settling in and I am getting my sewing room in order! I am a big reader but will admit not a huge commenter.
I do use your links to shops you support and they support you. I really enjoy your pictures and look forward to seeing the Koi Pond projects developments!
I am off to water my dahlias and help with our new raised bed garden! While you are recharging there is a lot I know I have wanted to read on your blog that I “missed” projects, tutorials etc. I will play catch up! Enjoy life!
I’m sorry you’re not getting the responses you deserve. I don’t comment much because I’m not sewing much. I like hearing about your busy life because mine is just the opposite. My husband died 4 years ago and although my sone is living with me now, I just can’t seem to get motivated to do much of anything including cleaning house, sewing getting out and visiting , etc. I enjoy your blogs very much.
Take a break, and hopefully by the fall you will have more to say,and maybe I will be sewing more too.
I will miss you and your blog as I only began to follow you 2 months ago. I understand that it must be difficult to blog frequently and do as you suggested and read some of the older post. Enjoy your recharge and come back to us soon. Your life is so varied and interesting.
Hi Carole, just popping in to say hi – your blogposts come to my email regularly and it’s always interesting to see what you’ve been up to – see your quilt drives, your sewing, your birds and garden and your mini trips (etc!). As a fellow blogger I know how much it is nice to receive feedback ie comments – and I apologise for not engaging more. (Interestingly, because your posts come to me via email – rather than me having to open up feedly etc etc – your blog is one of the ones I read the most!) I’ve had a bit of a rough year healthwise and nearly, unintentionally, stopped blogging. However, I’ve been back blogging again, – but doing it for me – to have a more detailed record of my pursuits than I would otherwise have, and as a way to connect with others – I have so many friends that I’ve met through blogging that I felt to stop, would be to lose touch totally, a thought which I couldn’t bear! Enjoy your break, and when you’re ready, I hope you’ll start up again – and find a rhythm to it that suits you. Raewyn, NZ.
Carole,
So sorry about “friends” not being inclusive. I have found in life, that we all mostly have acquaintances and 1 to 3 good friends. I am very thankful for my good friends, but also for the many friendly acquaintances. So hope Spring and the upcoming Summer with their blossoms and good weather will boost your spirits. As for those who leave us out, I just figure they’re missing out on a great friend. I’ve usually found that jealousy is sometimes behind their off-putting. I remind myself that God loves me and my family loves me and don’t let the others drag me down.
I enjoy reading your chats, but understand about taking a breather to recharge. I think we all need to do this sometimes.
So hope you will gain some rest and be back better than ever.
Blessings,
Beverly
Dear Carole,
Thank you for your creative ideas that I have enjoyed over the years you have written your blog. You have always been so busy and diligent about posting your activities that I have wondered how you fit it all in! Apparently you are a light to many of your bloggers here! I will miss your quilting and your recipes for two the most, and please let me say that you are an amazing, creative person but I totally understand needing a break. I didn’t rejoin a guild locally and when I was asked, I typed out a full page response, then edited it down to say “ I gave more than I got.” And realizing that made it so much simpler to walk away. I’ll go back when I have something to give. Maybe. You have certainly given huge creative energy for years!
It sounds like you are contemplating moving which is a monumental undertaking. Perhaps after you take a break and refocus, that will happen. And after that, we’ll hope to hear from you again!
Kind regards
I hate to read that many niggly, negative things have conspired against you this spring. Over the years, I too have needed a reset to get myself back to a good place. Good for you taking the time to figure out what brings you joy. I hope you find it soon.
In the meantime, I am a text, call or email away if you need a chat or to vent, I’m a great listener. I have enjoyed your blog a short time, and look forward to more when the time is right.
Blessings to you, Sherry
I always enjoy following you and your adventures. I love seeing your garden, your road trip adventures and the food is always enticing! I think I missed commenting on your recent guild adventure, which looked great. I hate instagram/facebook but do a little on their. I like blogs much better but once I get behind in reading it makes me crazy. Enjoy your rest.
Carole, I understand how you feel about these things. I’m not one of your close acquaintances or
Carole, I am one of those people who reads almost all of your posts and only comments once in a blue moon. I love your work and I click the like button, but I often can’t think of something to say.
Yes, it does suck when it feels like a one-way street, and I am dropping my blog shortly as it comes up for renewal. Do take the break you need, and don’t feel pressured to keep up the pace. Think of what you’d like your life to look like, and work toward that. Me, I wish I had more time to quilt. Dropping out of daily blogging will certainly help me find time.
Carole, I applaud you for taking charge of your life, recognizing that some people are not the friends you thought they were (not everyone should be allowed into your Inner Circle), and stepping back to, in a sense, regroup. Please, find a place where you feel comfortable. I’ve enjoyed doing some of the smaller project quilt-alongs that you’ve offered. I think it’s imperative that each one of us recognize just what it is that gives us pleasure and whether to share it or not. I will be 85 this year and have had many changes in my life. It became a challenge to ‘learn to be content’ in every aspect of what was going on my life. I feel blessed that I’m still able to sew and straight stitch quilt. Thank you for all that you have given, unconditionally. Hugs.
Hi Carole,I can sympathasize with your friend (or not) interactions. My husband passed away in February after six weeks in the ICU leaving me with a ton of paperwork to wade through for the past three months. Most of my friends while in Florida are couples which I am not any more. I have returned to my northern home two weeks ago and am planning his funeral and burial now. Meantime life goes on, but I am not hearing from some friends unless I phone or email them. I do read your blogs every week and am happy to get them. I guess I don’t have any sparkling replies, but I do appreciate them especially the bird and flower photos. That comment about not listening to you but will read it in your blog was rather rude. Hang in there and keep sending the photos of your lovely countryside. Sincerely, Carol Olszewski
Dear Carole,
I have been reading your blogs for several years and enjoying them although I don’t usually comment. Not sure how I found you but I used to live in Greenville, SC sort of near where you are in NC (but now I am in Savannah, GA) so maybe that is the connection of sorts. We have similar interests: quilting, cardmaking and cooking.
Sorry to hear you are struggling to stay motivated and being upset with the lack of responses from readers and friends. One never knows what another person is going through in their lives and how it affects their behavior toward others. It could just be a temporary thing or they don;t realize how they are acting can affect someone else.
I hope my response helps you stay motivated and happier. I would love it if you keep on writing your blogs but understand perfectly if you need a break!
Best regards, Pat Ashton
Carole,
I applaud you for recognizing your feelings and the need to take a break. I have only recently returned to regular blogging after nearly two years of just posting for the two groups I am in. Life happens, and we have to roll with the changes. I do enjoy reading your blog, especially Sunday morning chats. When I restarted my blog this spring, I decided it was going to be low stress, and while I had lots of posts during the first few months, with garden season coming on, I will cut back. I am off this week and next…if you would like to have a sewing morning I would be up for it! I can send you a link and we can just work on our stuff and have a nice chat while we do. No expectations, but a chance to sew together.
I know I don’t respond to your Blog very often but I do enjoy seeing your projects, flowers and table settings. You always amaze me with the table settings. Your flowers are beautiful! I might try an orchid but I heard they are hard to keep.
I also feel the same way about my friends. I feel like I always do the inviting and they come but I am never asked to do something.
Just remember that you have done a lot of good for people and seem to be a caring person.
Everyone needs a break sometimes. But we will be waiting for you when you are ready again. Take care of yourself and remember to reach out if you need anything. I consider you are friend, though we may never be able to do lunch together.
Sometimes, a break in the pattern of life is necessary, my friend. I’ve enjoyed your posts but not commented. Life can become weary of the same old day after day. Take a break and enjoy just relaxing for the summer. Make notes of joyful things you experience, take pictures and have fun. Next fall, who knows, the spark may happen and you want to share. I’ll be looking forward to the refreshed you. My 85 years have changed so many times. Now as I go back over my journals, I realize God had a plan for me all along and I was living it. Now, on to the next adventure of my life. See you soon.
I would like to add how much I enjoy reading your newsletter. I’m also sorry to read about people you obviously consider friends aren’t including you in their plans. Unfortunately you have too much to offer and these people don’t feel adequate enough to include you in their plans – their loss!
I have read all the replies to your morning email and it seems to me that you have a lot of followers who enjoy your writings very much. People out in the cyber world are always short of time and they mean to write but just run out of time with other commitments.
I do wish you a happy Summer with time to ‘recharge your batteries’ and hope you return to us at a later date. You will be missed from my morning coffee time.
Mary :))
I enjoy reading your blog and look forward to it. I belong to a car club too. But yours seems more active. I’m a little jealous. I live in eastern iowa and really enjoy your comments on the weather and the growing things in your area. Please keep up writing at least once a week
We out here ARE listening. Thank you.
Karla
carole-I have enjoyed your blog posts-both the regularity and topics. It is like hearing from an old friend. I do understand that the frequency could be a lot of work for you in addition to being a lot of pressure. I hope that you will enjoy the break and sort out if, how, and when you want to come back. You can see that you have all of us rooting for you, understanding and supporting your decision to take a break and re-evaluate, and wishing the best for you.
Carole, Thanks for sharing your life and creative projects through your blog for as long as you have. There are a few blogs I enjoy reading regularly, but I always think about how much work / pressure it must be to come up with something interesting to write about, take all the photos, etc. I think it would be exhausting. And not to get any positive feedback or interaction from your audience must be frustrating. The need to step back and take a break is understood.
I grew up in North Carolina, and still consider myself a Tarheel, but I left and moved west many years ago. I liked your blog because it gave me a connection with my home state. I enjoy seeing the pictures of your birds and wildlife, of the flowers and mountain scenery, reading about your entries in the fair, and about your charity work. Those mountain laurel are stunning. So, I will miss reading it, but will check back periodically to see if you have posted again.
Hi Carole , I am hearing your vent and offer my support. I think you are being very hard on yourself. Yes it seems time for some selfcare and a break from same old same. I find your posts very interesting and you are very productive with your stitching. A few good friends are often much better than lots of acquaintances. I have a very small but genuine circle of friends and I have learned to be happy with that. I do think that the pandemic has created many rather negative social behaviour patterns and life in general has changed for many of us. I am in my late 70’s and very happy in my quiet life. Try putting yourself and your partner first get out in your garden, have fun with your car club friends but on your own terms. If it doesn’t suit you, don’t do it! Try something new for your own pleasure, be unavailable for a while or even permanently. As you suggested, take a break from social media. It is time to attend to your mental health. I caringly urge you to consider this. Change is an inevitable part of life, Try to embrace this and leave old ways to die naturally. Sending with concern for your welfare and much care. Judy.
Hi Carole,
So sad that you are feeling down re people interacting with you. That is how I felt a few years back, and switched to Instagram. I have even pulled back from that too.
I feel for you – you put a lot of effort into a lot of projects. If you take a bit of a break you may find your energy renewed and your sewing Mojo might reappear.
Best wishes. I do enjoy your blog posts, which I get by email, so you don’t get as many comments from me as perhaps you might if I read your blog. But for some reason WordPress doesn’t like me, and I struggle with it. So emails have to do. BTW, yours is the only blog I have bothered to follow for many years.
Take care,
Dasha
Carole, I love your blog, read every post. I haven’t been commenting lately because I have a hard time getting comments to post from my phone. I am not bored, I enjoy reading about your projects, what you’re reading and you’re car club.
I do understand taking a break when you are feeling unappreciated. I also have found lately that I am reaching out to friends and they do not reciprocate. They seem happy to hear from me but don’t initiate anything. I figured I’m the only one with that issue.
I don’t comment often, but I totally understand the need to take a break from blogging and get your mojo back. I have encountered the same acquaintance/friend dilemma in recent years. If I don’t plan the time to get together, then nobody does. It is very discouraging. I look forward to your more infrequent posts. Perhaps you will fill your free time with more quilting.
Hi Carole, I am sorry to hear you are feeling this way and deciding to take a break. I have followed your blog for a few years now and always enjoy it. I must admit I have rarely left a comment and I will take note that of course you wouldn’t even know I enjoy it! You enjoy your break, you have been working hard on this for a very long time. You deserve it. But I do hope to see you back again with more quilting, birds, animals, car trips, scenery, etc.
Take care, Joanne (from Ontario)
I am so sorry you feel this way. I always enjoy your posts. You keep us up dated on all of you wonderful wildlife and quilting adventures. I really do not comment hardly at all sorry about that. Take a break and recharge.
Carole, I love your varied interests that you share, we have many in common. I feel your pain about blogging. We began about the same time. my views are way down and like you, I mainly hear from my faithful readers. I am seriously considering what to do. I understand your break. Enjoy the time away and hopefully I will be here when you return!
Oh Carole,
I totally understand your need to regroup and relax. I am guilty of living vicariously through your blog and not commenting often enough. Peace to you and I look forward to your return.
Hi Carole, we are coming out of the woodwork here to show you you do have a battalion of readers who do enjoy your posts so very much! I’m a long time subscriber and look forward to each of your posts…I love how you share a range of topics…all things I love. Through you I found Breakfast Cookies that have become a staple here. I’m a loner and left the few good friends behind in Newfoundland when I moved here to Ontario to be near my daughters. I’ve not made friends here but friendly acquaintances kind of thing. Going to stitching groups heightened the aloneness as folks were there with their best buddies, people they would have known for years. So I stopped doing that. My blog has been a positive way for me to connect somewhat. Meanwhile, the blog is your own creation, entirely in your hands if you want to take a break, post less often, etc. Posting daily is a lot! I’m hoping you will decide to keep it going in some format as it does give me pleasure to read it. But all my very best wishes to you nonetheless!
While I do read and enjoy your posts, I know I do not comment each time. I’ve always admired your tablescapes, cooking, quilting projects and gardening. It seems lives have gotten so busy and quick blurbs on IG come easier. I always enjoyed the friendships made through blogging when there was some back and forth communication. Good blogs take a lot of time and effort. You’ve done well with yours for so many years and have always been generous in sharing ideas, patterns, etc. I hope to see you back after your well deserved break.
Sending you hugs. You are so right to take a step back and re-energize. I marvel at the pace and enthusiasm you have maintained for years. Take your break and know that there are many people, like myself, that have been touched by your kindness, zest for life, your talent, and your willingness to share. I hope that you will return to your blog but that is me being selfish, do what is best for you.
I think when we are frustrated and weary, we are more sensitive to the comments and actions of others. Once we address what is bothering us, it is easier to shrug off those quirks that annoy us.
Now is the time to “Take care of yourself”. Wishing you many hours of fun, real friendships, and new adventures while you are taking a well deserved break.
Carole, I have enjoyed reading your blog for years now . I haven’t commented very often but I thoroughly enjoy it. I’m sorry if I’ve hurt your feelings by not commenting more. I just felt that you had so many followers and I know that you respond to each email you receive. I don’t have any idea how you do as much as you do! You are one busy lady! And you are helping so many others, not just doing things you enjoy. I have shared your pictures, stories, and bits of information you have shared in your blog with many of my friends and my husband, and my son.
I’m sorry you’re feeling less ‘seen’ by your friends. As for the dinner invites, we have found that some friends just don’t reciprocate. (maybe messy housekeepers, or bad cooks!) We figure if we want to have dinner with them, it’s either invite them over, or meet somewhere for dinner. It’s not the same, but we get to visit.
I can understand your decision to step back and take a break. You truly deserve a break!
With this break, I hope that you will take time to relax, feel no guilt, and know that you have made a difference to many of us! I Iive in Texas so I have enjoyed all the wildlife pictures, the updates on the weather and tragedies in the Carolinas, the beautiful sceneries you’ve photographed. And so much more!! I’ll be praying for you and will continue reading your blogs regardless of how frequent, or infrequent they may be. I have not gotten bored!
Take care and may God bless you!!
Lisa
Carole, I’m sorry you are going through a rough patch and am grateful that you shared your feelings. You have done so much for others, and I hope you can feel the love from me and all of those who commented on your post. I don’t comment often but wanted you to know I do appreciate what you do for the quilting community. Take care!!
I think a lot has changed over the last 5 years. There are a lot less blogs, and a lot less readers. People have gone over to the quick posts using Instagram, and are less likely to take time to write.
Stepping back and taking time or yourself is a good idea. Take care.
Carole – I’ve enjoyed your blog for years but not a big on commenting. I have looked forward to seeing your lovely posts about your gardens, wildlife, thrifting and your homemade meals. I also love the sewing. I have a blog and am not consistent with posting. I know it’s a lot of work. Part of the blog is to have documentation for myself but also to share if it is helpful to others. Take a break! I just wanted you to know that I’ve been a reader and enjoy what you share.
~~Lesley
Just so you know. I am a Nevada girl. I miss your blog. I will be glad, when the time feels right to come back. Enjoy your life
I was going to leave a comment last week but you had so many already, I thought it might take you days to get through them, and even longer if you responded to them. So today, I was thinking of your Sunday post and realized there wouldn’t be one, and I’m missing it. It was one of the posts I always looked forward to reading.
I’m sorry for the slights of your supposed friends, and for the need for a break from blogging and the other things you do, but I also understand the need. I hope you don’t give up blogging forever!
Take good care.
Hi Nancy,
Thank you so much for commenting! I have not responded to all the comments, but I have read each and every one. They have all have bolstered my spirits. I just need some time off of all the deadlines and constant pressure. But, I do think I will be blogging again soon. My plan at this time is to post for Stashbusters in June, and then go from there.
I’m sorry for women that are so insensitive and selfish. I enjoy your blog and am not bored in any way. I have never seen mountain laurel and they are lovely. I also understand your disappointment and hurt feelings and will wait patiently for your return. I will visit your site while you are away. Enjoy your time off and take care of yourself, you deserve it. Lots of love, Alexandria
Yes, I miss your blog and its diverse content like others have mentioned. How refreshing to virtually sit on your front porch a couple of time a week and hear your thoughts about projects, the mini club events, table scapes, recipies and my favorite, the monthly check-in of fabric “in and out”. That has been such a good motivator for me to keep moving forward. I so enjoy tracking and seeing the numbers move toward my goal each year.
You are wise to assess your direction, your strength, and your desires before you become so burned out that you just fizzle away and loose your joy. I will certainly be awaiting your next blog post whenever it arrives. Dive into your break and allow creativity to splash out into new areas that thrill your soul. I and certainly others will be waiting here for our online friend to come back from her blogging respite.
Good Tuesday morning from deary central NC. I get why you need a break from what seems the same ol’, same ol’. It is a valid feeling and when you keep giving and posting, and no one seems to be interacting with your posts you think, “are they even reading?” My hubby and I were mssionaries and were recently asked to speak at a church. He commented, afterwards that he wasn’t sure anyone was taking it in until afterwards, when they asked questions or made comments (some a little weird😃) but he then realized they had been listening. For me, I have reactions to what you say while I’m reading but immediately think ‘aw, she doesn’t need to hear my thoughts’. I guess I was wrong🫣 so maybe I do need to get out of my self-conscious state and comment more often. So, I do enjoy seeing your surroundings and reading about your gardening and sewing experience. As far as taking a break: Do what makes your heart sing! Maybe I need to take my own advice, eh? Until next time, or not. Charlie
Take a break, take a vacation! This is work and you definitely deserve it. Take care of yourself and thank you for everything on this blog! It’s helped me so many times with bonding or color choice. It’s always good to check in with yourself and your mental health.
Wishing you peace and deep breaths.